Carl RogersWhat I am is good enough if I would only be it
The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl's
question, "How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?"
I am me.
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There
are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly
like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is
authentically mine because I alone choose it.
I own everything about me — my body, including everything
it does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes,
including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they
might be — anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment,
excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it —
polite, sweet and rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and
soft; all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with
me. By so dong, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my
parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving
for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I
think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic
and represents where I am at that moment in time.
When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and
did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be
unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting and keep that
which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I
I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to
survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and
order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me and therefore I can engineer me.
I am me and I am okay.